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The Secret to Successful Environments During Great Change

Evolve.

Yep.  Gave it away right at the beginning.  You’re welcome bottom-liners.

This principle is always part of creating successful spaces.  Now, it is essential.

Normally, we have much more time—and therefore, greater ease—to build this element into our lives and environment.  But now, needs and circumstances are changing faster than most of us feel equipped to manage.

And with that, being willing to evolve moves from the background into the number one, tippy top, most important spot, when it comes to planning our spaces.

How do you evolve, practically?

1. Identify Your Processes

What activities have been moved home?  What routines do you now need to make space for?  Be as specific as possible:  Zoom meetings, distraction-free work calls, 8th grade science experiments, yoga, art class, etc.  Make a list.

Often, people simply try to replicate their former work or school environment at home.  If you have the space and resources to do that, fantastic!  But most people just don’t and are left disheartened and frustrated. 

Focusing on the process allows new solutions for your current environment to rise to the surface.

2. Get Creative

Do you absolutely need a dedicated desk for your work? Would your energy and money be better spent finding a portable container for supplies, allowing you to work with existing furniture instead of cramming in more?

 

With my husband in our home office and my son in “school” in our open-concept main spaces, I’ve made the bedroom my landing spot.  A lap desk sits beside the bed when not in use, I’ve rigged up an extra charging cord for my laptop, and I’ve outfitted the nightstand with the most necessary office supplies.  Yes, I know what they say about not doing work in the bedroom, but these are extraordinary times. There are other ways to help one’s brain transition from work to relaxation:  wind-down rituals, a change in lighting, changing clothes, etc.  

We must bend if we don’t want to break.

Could you take Zoom meetings in the bathroom?  Hear me out!  Bathrooms are consistently the most private and quiet places in a home, SO, if you won’t leave others desperately banging on the door for it’s (uh, hum) “traditional” use, consider it.  Put a folding chair in front of the door so it’s not obvious you are in a bathroom.  Bam: neutral background + quiet = process supported

For more tips on better Zoom calls–including a bathroom example– check out my YouTube video below:

We already had a desk in the family room before the pandemic. It was used for homework and gaming. Now, it’s full-time school. However, it isn’t a large workspace for that many hours of school, and it doesn’t offer any storage.

Since we don’t want to buy a whole new desk for what we hope is a temporary situation, we needed another solution to papers and piles all over the family room.

Enter, the former flower bucket. This container used to hold a mass of hydrangeas for decoration. Now, it holds my son’s notebooks, papers, and art supplies and sits within easy reach of his desk. It supports the process needed (corralling additional school materials), it doesn’t add additional furniture to an already full room, and it was free!

Creatively edit: Is there anything you can remove?  It doesn’t have to be forever.  But doesn’t it makes sense that if we add to the activities performed in our homes and hours spent there, we might need to take some things away

If it’s not essential or bringing you abundant delight, it might need to have a “time out.”  The extra breathing room—spatially, visually, and mentally–will go a long a way in helping you survive new adjustments.

Being creative–which includes thinking outside the obvious or the ideal–is key to adapting.

3. Stay Flexible

I know.  Easier said than done—especially for those of us who approach these situations as problems to be solved.  We want to fix it and forget it.  But with so much uncertainty on the horizon, we would do better to approach these adjustments to our homes (and lives) as

a tension to be managed.

Practically, it will be easier to remain flexible and adapt if you limit the amount of time and money you invest in these adjustments. Our needs have shifted so much in the last year and are likely to shift more before we reach that illusive “new normal.”   

Invest some time and energy considering what you need and how you might approach those needs (# 1-2), but after that, limit the resources you spend carrying out that plan.  Doing so allows you to hold loosely. 

Holding loosely leaves room for making adjustments as you need them—because the changes keep coming!

There will be a day when our environments will have less demands on them, we’ll be less confined, and it will all make more sense. Until then, if we want to thrive, or even just survive, we must

Evolve.

*As I’m typing, my daughter (a college freshman) texts to say she and ALL the students on her floor are being relocated to make room for “quarantine housing.”  Yep.  Change, change, change.  The only way to survive is to evolve.

Photo Credits in order, from Unsplash (unless otherwise noted):

Jeremy Zero, Suzanne D. Williams, Glenn Carstens-Peters; Sincerely Media; Tim Gouw on Pexels.com; Joanna Kosinska; kalei peek; Tomas Sobek; (desk and flower bucket pictures, mine); Stephanie Harvey; Jeremy Bishop; Miguel Bruna

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Just an Update, Please

Itching for a change but not up for a complete overhaul?

We can do that!

Pillow Talk:

These pillows and coordinating blanket lived a good life.  However, they were fraying, lumpy, and starting to show it.  A quick visit to Homegoods, and I found some cheerful, but inexpensive, new friends.  For bedrooms and living rooms that need something fresh, consider pillows or a new throw.

Add Color:

I love the blues in my family room but wanted an update that didn’t require a paintbrush, ladder, moving furniture . . . basic upheaval, so I looked across the color wheel.  All colors have a natural complementary color that you can determine by looking at the color opposite your existing color on a color wheel.

If you’re alarmed by what you find, remember the plethora of shades that color represents.  For example, I do NOT have fond feelings toward crayon orange (the color opposite blue on the color wheel), but I wouldn’t mind a cheerful coral coming to visit.  A few inexpensive accessories in this new color give the room a little more punch.

Shade It:

Consider a new lamp shade.  Rarely touched, a lamp shade can function for a long time and go unnoticed.  Consequently, these are often the accessories that most “age” a room.  A new lamp is a great option too, but if it’s in good shape, just change the shade.  [Note:  Know which kind of shade your lamp accepts BEFORE you go shopping.  (ie. a harp, spider, clip-on, etc.) It will save you lots of frustration.]

Let There Be Light:

While we’re on the subject, adjusting the lighting can have an enormous impact on a room.  Is there a spot that always feels dark or, on the other end, too garish?  Change out the light bulb for something crisper or softer than what you currently have.  There are even light bulbs that have a dimmer switch (right on the bulb, so nothing to install!) for rooms that require task and mood lighting.

Bring In Nature:

Have you read the studies that suggest people who consistently spend 30 minutes outside live happier lives?  I think nature speaks to a primal need for beauty etched on our souls.  A simple bouquet of flowers–real or quality artificials–have a surprising capacity to evoke happiness.  If you have a Trader Joe’s nearby, they usually have beautiful flowers and plants at very reasonable prices.

Need Something Free?

Try editing.  I’m AMAZED at how subtly but surely, stuff begets stuff!  You were just going to leave it there until you found a better place . . ..  Soon, the pieces and views we do enjoy are lost in the clutter.  So, clear out that pile that gathered in the corner.  Put away that off-season item you don’t need for the next several months.  Consider what accessories or pieces of furniture you’re just tired of or that always seems in the way.  Pass them on to another happy home or put it away for a bit.  (If you’re not sure if you can part with something, put it out of sight and set a reminder on your phone for 6 months later.  Did you miss it?)  Removing visual clutter gives your eye and your mind “breathing room.”

Take a cue from Fixer Upper and put simple stems from the yard in a collection of glass bottles or in one large vessel.  I live in the desert and can still find something that works.

When we make wise and considered design choices, we will love our surroundings for a long time.  However, a few small adjustments now and then keep a space feeling fresh and current and bring new life to the features that have been around a while and need to stay a while ;-).

 

 

Photo Credits: Construction (top)–Milivoj Kuhar on Unsplash;  Color Wheel–Public Domain Stock Photo; Lamp–Samule Sun on Unsplash; Pink Flowers–Magdalena Raczka on Unsplash; Leaf–Sarah Dorweiler on Unsplash

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Meaning is Subjective

I have this theory that a house isn’t a home unless its contents are meaningful–meaningful to its inhabitants, that is.  Which means that our homes aren’t complete when they are the best version of Joanna Gaines-ness that we can muster.  (Just an example.  Nothin’ but love for Joanna!)  Rather, our homes get to be gloriously different, just as what fulfills and shapes us is wonderfully complex and different.

Here’s what I mean in pictures:

I love to travel.  So did my grandmother, whose vintage suitcases I inherited.  In our family room, they keep cards, games, and puzzles accessible.  They’re practical and meaningful.

 

 

This planter, stolen from outside, displays a decade of beach treasures because I have such happy memories by the ocean.

 

 

This metal sconce preserves love letters from a long-distance relationship that turned into 22+years of marriage.  (“Why didn’t you just text or email?” the young things ask us. Ha!  It wasn’t invented yet!)  It strategically hangs by my side of the bed:  a gentle reminder of the love we fought for.

So, what items remind you of your heritage?  Favorite memories?  Deep values?  Dreams or aspirations?

Work them into your decor; replace stock items for functional–but meaningful–ones.  Start with a special item and find a way to make it useful or beautiful.  Or, consider what part of your soul needs the most bolstering, and find a way to represent it in your decor.

Making meaning tangible in your home is like sowing a smile in every room.

(Cheesy.  I know.)

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